Thursday, September 6, 2007

Husbands

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I love my husband more than anything. But that man can infuriate me like no other. After a night of self-imposed silence, I wake up tired, hurt and frustrated. All because he didn't call!

Dinner is always on the table when he gets home from work. He's worked a long hard day so I make sure that there is a nice dinner waiting for him. I agonize over it as mentioned in a previous tirade. Yesterday when he's a half an hour late, I call him on his cell. Was he still working? NO. He stopped at our best friends' on the way home. Granted he does pass their house on the way. And he and his best friend (Bill) do work together. And Bill has this week off so that he can put new cabinets in their kitchen. So was it a big deal that he stopped there on the way home? No. Was it a big deal because he didn't tell me that he would be late, YES! And yes, he apologized but this isn't the first time he's done this. So do I accept that apology, not really. This is a age-old problem that every wife (or dinner-maker) has faced. I know that I'm not special. But MAN - does that irritate me.

So this morning, I go about my normal routine. I get up when the alarm goes off. I come downstairs and get his lunch ready. I pour him a cup of coffee in his travel mug. And I kiss him good-bye at the door. I return the "I love you." And I go back to reading about the death of Luciano Pavarotti (sigh), sulking. Feeling more sorry for myself than I should.

So I decide to text message him. I'm not quite ready to speak yet but I have to get over it. I send him this long text message (and anyone who has ever done that knows it takes forever.) And I end it with: We're good. But you owe me. I tell him that I still love him even when he's an ass. And the reply I get from him is one of the reasons why I love him. It's a picture of some cartoon-looking thing blowing me a big kiss. "I love you" written below. Now how do you stay mad when this cute little character is giving you a big "MUAH" telling you he loves you?

It's hard for me to remember that he's not a woman and just doesn't always think the way I do. How does the saying go? Women are from Venus and men are from Mars? Or some junk like that? I remember Henry Higgins lamenting about why women can't be more like men, in My Fair Lady. Why can't men be more like women?

14 comments:

Super Mom said...

This is a GREAT post!!! Funny, true, sweet...

The disney cartoon is great!!

Marilyn said...

Men! I think they're all alike!
Mine always forgets what we've disagreed on, how convenient! LOL

Esther Sunday said...

Wonderful!!! Cartoon is hilarious! They definately are of a different species! When my 40th birthday was approaching I got this - "So, do you want a surprise party?" Huh, what kind of question is that? But I love him dearly.
Esther

melissa said...

Very funny! I often wonder that myself, what is wrong with them that they are not like us! Makes life challenging!

melissa

http://theinspiredroom.wordpress.com

Dena ~ swaddlecottage said...

How perfectly true! I can really relate :) I think that's why we have our girlfriends. Men just aren't wired the same way. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten that deer-in-the-headlights look from mine when I've poured out one of my heart wrenching speeches on something that I really needed to discuss. Expecting the same fufilling helping of emotional verbiage returned can leave a gal starvin' LOL!

Hugs to you,
Dena

Counting Your Blessings said...

I want so, so badly to post here about my ex-husband!! I just can't come up with any Christ-like words that will work though. =) Blessings.. Polly

BittersweetPunkin said...

We women certainly have a knack for showing our love without using "words" all the time. If I spent all that time sending a text like that to my hubby...he would call and say "I can't believe you spent a quarter sending that when you could've called me on the phone for free" !!

Love love love the cartoon!
Blessings, Robin

Back Through Time said...

I just LOVE this post!! And the cartoon is so fitting!
Michelle

ROGERSBIZ said...

NICE BLOG.

mayberry said...

I'm going with Polly on this one. I can't say anything nice, so I won't say anything at all. =)

Love the cartoon! My little girl is all into the princess stuff right now so I appreciated the joke as a mama!

Becky said...

Yup! Ditto here! I had dinner ready at 6:30 last night and my HUB was still at work. No phone call, nothing..he gets off at 5 PM. When I called he said our son was supposed to tell me he'd be late. We finally ate at 8 PM. I know how you are feeling. Boy, do I KNOW what you are agonizing about. You know, there are some men who think like women......know what I mean? xo, Becky

Emilie said...

I'm glad you two made up. Thank goodness for text messaging! What would we do without it?
Yes, it takes me forever to text, too. I am the slowest person in the world. :-)

Sophie Honeysuckle said...

It drives me mad when my husband does that too-they are all alike, even across the pond!

La Tea Dah said...

Excellent post --- text messaging --- great idea! I hope the sailing's been smoother of recent. :)

LaTeaDah